Quality Time (Love Language)

Quality time is more than mere proximity. It’s about focusing all your energy on your mate. A husband watching sports while talking to his wife is NOT quality time. Unless all of your attention is focused on your mate, even an intimate dinner for two can come and go without a minute of quality time being shared.

Quality conversation is very important in a healthy relationship. It involves sharing experiences, thoughts, feelings and desires in a friendly, uninterrupted context. A good mate will not only listen, but offer advice and respond to assure their mate they are truly listening. Many mates don’t expect you to solve their problems. They need a sympathetic listener.

An important aspect of quality conversation is self-revelation. In order for you to communicate with your mate, you must also be in tune with your inner emotions. It is only when you understand your emotions and inner feelings will you then be able to share quality conversation, and quality time with your mate.

Quality activities are a very important part of quality time. Many mates feel most loved when they spend physical time together, doing activities that they love to do. Spending time together will bring a couple closer, and, in the years to come, will fill up a memory bank that you can reminisce about in the future.Whether it’s sitting on the couch and having a brief conversation or playing together in a tennis league, quality time is a love language that is shared by many. Setting aside focused time with your mate will ensure a happy marriage.

Extracted from http://www.fivelovelanguages.com/learn.html by Gary Chapman

My Realisation

I have been missing out on giving quality conversation to you.
Miss out on telling you I cherish your being around me.
Miss out on telling you this is the way I love you.
Miss out on knowing that this is one way you feel my love.

Too little words from the mouth can kill a relationship.
Words express your interest that you want the other person to know about you, your experience, your thoughts and your feelings.

Too little words just like my dad.
Much better at writing than talking
Now the quieter one in this relationship.
This is no excuse not to learn to speak more.
Now I want to learn this way to communicate my love for you

This also encourage me more to speak as a way to tell you I love you.

Zhenyuan